In all relationships, to create a strong bond, i believe that the most fundamental issue lies with trust. Of cause it is easy to say that trust is definitely one of the most important factor is any relationship. But how easy is it for us to actually trust one another.

Maybe to trust we can first start by looking at telling each other the truth. I guess that transparency is good such that we can have more trust. Cause we don't need to double guess each other and at the same time doubt each other. Of course by telling each other the truth we also will automatically try to restrict our own negative and wrong thoughts about each other. Because you will feel guilty for not telling each other about your thoughts and when you start saying them out, you will feel much better and not feel that way anymore. An example will be like being angry at your parents maybe? Sometimes you parents can be restrictive and over protective. However if you are able to express this feelings appropriately to them, you won't feel so angry anymore. Haha, but its just an example, inreality i think its hard to express what you really think to your parents due to the traditional kind of thinking. But its not wrong, just that we will have to find another outlet for our anger.

To be able to trust i guess we must also try to understand each other. Its not easy to to do that though. Thats like even harder than trying to guess the toto or 4D numbers. And the more you understand about each other, the more differences you might find and thus more conflicts. But i don't believe in finding someone exactly same as you to be your friend. I think that have different character in a group will bring more life and dynamics to the group. Does that mean we won't be able to understand the others and also trust them. I think the answer is no. To trust is think we do not need to understand everything about one another. If you try to, you will be guessing and that will decrease the trust. To guess is to not trust. To trust is to putting your relationship is their hands as well as your own. To let it grow without having to forcing it to grow by trying to know more about each other. Sometimes best of friends don't understand each at all but they are still best of friends. Thats because they can trust without any prerequiste and conditions. Thats difficult but powerful. If you trust you will know that everything will be known to you in time. Its like faith in God. You don't know, you can't see, smell, feel, taste or even hear him. But if you believe in him he will slowly let you know him. By trusting him, you give him room to work in your life. Thats why God is like a friend. Probably your best friend cause he will never abandon you unless you choose to abandon him.

Yup so i feel that honesty and acceptance are important in a relationship. Any kind. There is no need to understand fully, but to be able to put relationship into the hands of your friends. Just as your friends are putting it in your hands.

What a dead blog. I have decided to continue my rantings. Haha. Although i kind of think i am blog alot of rubbish.

Wanted to change my skins back to my old one. Like the old old one from my previous blog. But decided not to le. Cause i think my current skin is nicer than my old ones. Gonna add a tagboard though. Think i can make this blog public. Maybe i shld advertise it like ony msn. Nah will think about it.

So today what to talk about? ok having a random thought now. If you were reborned or given another chance to live again, whould you want to be a guy or a girl? Haha kope this from a TV program actually. But i guess it kinda triggered my thoughts a little.

For me i think i don't mind being either. But think for now i like being a guy. And i really dun mind being one again. Being a guy gives you more freedom in a sense i guess. At the end of a day, in a relationship, the girl will also be the ones to lose out. There are also stereotypical ideas about girls which i will prefer to ignore. So in other words guy seem to have the easier time. Oh and the house work is normally done by the girls!!!! But i have doubts about that nowadays. I seriously think alot of girls these days can't do housework. Seriously bad at doing them.

Of course there are also advantages of being a girl. Like guys have to be gentlemanly to the girls. And also girls can wear guyish clothers but guys wearing girlish girls will be weird. Also girls nowadays are really pampered by the guys. Ok la, maybe only during courtship. Haha sorry ah, i think guys like just liddat. Once they get their goods, they dun care anymore. Bad right? Ok but not all guys are jerks i guess. Oh and girls have advantages at getting jobs also. Especially if the girl is very pretty. All the guys are like perverted de i think, especially bosses. Like to hire pretty employees and secretary. Seriously, they hiring them to do the job or to be looked at? I wonder.

Ok i think enough of crap. I feel really unintellectual saying all these things. will end here for now.